art of doing nothing,,,but still feeling alive

well,what to do when life starts sucking at a time.we feel like what to do and what not to do.when we find no path no direction .life just stops flowing.we get stuck somewhere.it feels like llife trapped by blackhole. yes a blackhole isnt' it? "blackhole"which attracts everything by its huge attractional force and sent towards its epicentre kind of thing. at that time it becomes very difficult for one to escape.

but yeah.where there is nothing ,there is one lsat thing which never dies .its our will power.our intrinsic factor whick keeps us alive.which keeps motivating us.when we feel low ,depressed and sad its our soul which says common man every thing will be al right one day.

it becomes harder and harder when we are doing nothing but still we have to live our life.its not like that a person o this by his will.it just about that good time.it's also about destiny we can say.but yeah,it does not mean that we don't have right to live life happily.

in the hope of that positive ray that it will knock you by its positive vibrations just feel alive.

when your mind stop working think by your heart.practice all those things which makes you energetic. fill up your life with enough music so that there is no space for sorrow.

faith in god should always be there.harder times are the part of life.we have to face.escapism only creates problems.face the challenges by universe.and i have read it somewhere that universe gives challenges to only those selected people whom they wanted to be the strongest one on this earth.

so ,face the challenges happily and feel alive..

sooner and sooner we will find our way in blackhole itself.yeah,its hard to escape out of it but we can make it easy by our patience..have patience in your life and feel alive

mediate enough so that yu always feel happy from within.yoga is a way to make our life even more better.so include yoga in your life and feel alive.

so far we see how can we feel alive even we are doing nothing..

the last hope

i feel like  bird,sometimes enclosed in a huge cage followed by a small cage .sometimes i get confused whether i am free or not.coming out of a cage pushes me to another one .i dont knw whether i can come out of it or not. both of these cages are making me insane.pushing me in a different world.the world which i dont like .dont want to enjoy any of those stuff which i use to love.


those phone calss makes me feel happy earlier.chit chatting with friends was a happy delight fr me.roaming around ,visiting places were my passions and i use to die for it.but now it's  totally changed.here there is everything of comfort.but i dont want this.i love to stuggle.

i want to feel the pain.the pain of freedom.the pain of sucess.
for me sky is the limit of sucess.i know one day everything is going to be changed.happys days will find its way back to me and my life.and that day i will feel like the queen of universe.it's my last hope.my faith in my lord shiva that my dream will not remain just a meredream.but it will takes it's shape.and that day i will be a free bird with no cage.just me and my dreams ..and the feeling of that great relief .

its all about opportunities!!!

It is not selfish to love yourself,you got to take care of yourself
and your loved once in the best possible way and to make your
happiness a priority. It is necessary .The faster you realize it ,the
better it is. People think Success is Money, But the real success is Earning
that kind of money at the right time.How many of us do that? Is it that we lack talent ? Or is it we don't
have the potential? No ! Its because we are not able to recognize the
right opportunities coming our way. We spend most of the time applying
logic ,asking question, Doubting , Gossiping, Talking About Our
Problems Is Our Greatest Addiction… Ask yourself is it really Worth it ? Either you do it or let people do who are doing it.

There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make
a difference in this world: Those who are afraid to try and those who
are afraid you will succeed."

i think we should never give up.and keep trying .who knows one day everything is going to be changed.

right attitude makes ways all perfect

A positive attitude will get you anywhere. Isn't that true?

definitely.Have you ever noticed how refreshingly fun it is to be around positive thinking people who seem to naturally maintain a positive attitude? No matter how bad the circumstances, negativity never even enters their minds, let alone crosses their lips to form negative, faithless words! But let's be honest, encountering a positive person is a rare occurrence these days. Whoops, that sure was a negative thought!

Negative Versus Positive Thinking

Why is it so much easier to have a negative attitude than a positive one? What's inside of us that just naturally pulls us toward the negative side of things?

We read the books. We attend the seminars. We buy the tapes, and things seem to go well for awhile. We feel better. Our outlook is improved, and we're hopeful. That is ... until something happens that sends us reeling all over again.

It doesn't even have to be a major, catastrophic event to send us back to the land of negative thinking. It can be something as simple as someone cutting us off in traffic or pushing ahead of us in the grocery checkout line. What gives those seemingly simple occurrences of every day life so much power to literally throw us into a tizzy all over again?

This never ending cycle continues because its source is never addressed. We "try hard" to be positive, attempting to over-ride how we truly feel. It's a lot of work pretending to be positive when inside we know all too well that it won't take long before one of those annoying life issues creeps up and dumps all over our positive attitude.

Negative Thinking

Negative attitudes come from negative thoughts that come from reactions to negative behavior. And around the cycle goes. We know that none of this negative stuff is coming from God. There is nothing negative about the way he thinks or acts.

So how do we put a stop to all this nonsense? How do we get to a place where our positive attitude is what's natural for us and not the other way around?

I wish I could give you a magic formula that, when applied correctly, would erase your negative attitude in three days. Yup, can't you just see the infomercial on a product like that? For just $19.95 you can have all your dreams come true. What a bargain! People would be lining up for this one.

But alas, the real world isn't quite so simple. The good news is that there are some things we can do to help transition from the land of negativity to a much more positive place.

Tips for a Positive Attitude - 

First, focus on what you're thinking about.

Second, stop letting other people's negative attitudes influence yours. 

Third, make a list of all the areas in your life that you want to change.

Fourth, take some time to write strong, life-giving, positive affirmation statements.
Lastly, take time to pray about this
This process will change how we think and that's the real key to changing how we act. Remember, the body will follow wherever the mind goes. There is no way to separate the two, so we might as well "program in" what we want, instead of randomly leaving it to chance.

Just know that God's version of a right attitude contains nothing negative. And if we want God's best for our life, it starts with right thoughts — his thoughts to be exact.

Wear The Trend: Neon

The runways revived the 1980s love for neon, but brought them into the current decade with a contemporary twist. Designers from all over the world, including Blumarine, D&G and Roksanda Ilincic took a liking to acidic hues and there’s no running away from them this summer. Whether you want to mix and match or go all-out in head to toe neon, Vogue.in tells you how work this trend in your favour.

Brunch: Don’t be afraid to wear this trend during the day. Opt for fluid silhouettes or pair your neon piece with nude flats for a relaxed look. We love the neon striped jeans by Rag & Bone jean for a fun take on casual wear. Alternatively, add the ‘festival friendship’ chain necklace by River Island paired with an all-white ensemble to make a statement.

Work: If being fashion forward at work is not an option for you, adapt this trend in the form of accessories. We love Tod’s turquoise D-bag to help you make an impact. However, if your corporate dress code is slightly relaxed, opt for the cropped belted jacket by Debenhams to keep 9 to 5 interesting.

Cocktails: Go all-out by mixing your neon pieces with other trends such as prints. Opt for a print in a monochrome colour to avoid looking too busy. Vogue.in recommends the Camille high waist skirt by Only to help you get into the mood for partying.

Positive Thinking And Its Effect On Your Health

The first situation to consider is the relationship between thoughts and conditions like depression and stress. A crucial question is whether the person's thoughts are creating the physical depression or the physical depression is creating the negative thinking. When it comes to how you can use your mind to help, this can be accomplished consciously and subconsciously. When someone has a habit of imagining things turning out very badly, rational thinking can show show them that they often exaggerate. However, the unconscious mind is much more powerful in shaping our habitual behavior, oftentimes beyond our conscious control. Visualization and hypnosis can be very effective in modifying beliefs and, if you do this, the long-lasting effects can be more powerful than using logic only. 

It is likewise true that positive thinking can have an impact on our physical health, and you may be aware of the placebo effect on people who feel ill. This is when individuals are given a pill which in reality does not have any healing value, and yet they claim to notice an improvement in how they feel. This is evidence of the connection between mind and body, and there are many examples of men and women with a positive outlook being able to recover faster from malady and injury. You can also use the power of your mind to help you in achieving your fitness goals. A historic example of this is when the four minute barrier for running the mile was broken, which had been considered as unachievable up to that point. Once the "barrier" had been broken, other runners also began to break through what had really been a barrier of belief. 

The effects of aging are likewise influenced by how we think about the process. As you get older, do you talk to your friends about your "aches and pains" and your weakened capabilities? It seems there's a great deal of truth to the saying, "You're only as old as you think you are," and our thoughts can be used to undo a lot of the so-called effects of aging. Unfortunately, numerous individuals will continue to hold on to old beliefs about the unavoidable "decline" of health in old age, and not pay attention to the benefits of a positive outlook. 

Now that you are aware that your attitude can bring you a much better state of health, it's up to you to take advantage of this information and set your intention to think positive thoughts whenever you remember.

Hypnotherapy: Can It Be Used To Treat Alcoholism?

Hypnotherapy was first discovered in the ancient times by the Greeks, Romans and Egyptians as a healing art. Until today, it has evolved over the generations and has been used to treat a variety of illnesses, even alcoholism. It has been proven to be safe and effective and has been adopted by many healthcare practitioners as an alternative therapy. But till what extent is hypnotherapy effective in treating alcoholism? Let's find out. 

As we all know, the therapeutic effect of hypnotherapy ranges from its hypnosis effects and relaxation abilities. It can help anxious and tensed people relax by putting them in a relaxed state of mind. The habit of alcohol drinking is something that has been incorporated into the minds by people who drink chronically due to their social upbringing. A variety of sources contribute to this habit such as the role of media and advertising, peer influence, and work related stress. 

Unfortunately, many believe that hypnotherapy does not work directly on the causes, but instead help reduce the symptoms of alcohol cravings which lead to binge drinking. For example, we binge on alcohol because we want a form of escapism from the stress and frustrations of work/our boss/our spouses. The role of hypnotherapy is more to relaxing the mind of the subject rather than brainwashing the subject into being stress free. 

We are also aware that many of the "triggers" of alcohol cravings and hence binging cannot be avoided. Therefore, hypnotherapy has a big role to play in this area. It can treat the symptoms of alcoholism such as alcohol withdrawal syndrome and relax the subject. Hypnotherapy coupled with counselling and the introduction of empowering thoughts and ideas can create a profound breakthrough in patients suffering from alcoholism. 

In conclusion, a good hypnotherapy regimen coupled with adequate counselling can help alcohol addicts treat symptoms of withdrawal and prevent alcohol cravings. Counsellors and practitioners have an important role to play in helping patients set realistic goals and help them to achieve them.

Self Improvement And Motivation

Over the past few months, the concepts of stripping back the superfluous, simplifying and pulling apart the true meaning of integrity have been strong personal themes. For many people, there�s a drive to again inspect old patterns that continue to run happily in the background despite years of self-examination. Perhaps under the direction of a new global energy, there�s a sense of being able to lovingly let go of those things that have served us all well on one level, yet have offered excuses to stay small on another. 

I came across Don Miguel Ruiz� �The Four Agreements� the other day and it strongly resonated with this desire to pare back; to simplify; to become more real as a participant in this world and begin operating in a more authentic way. 

With these 4 simple tenets, we could literally change the way we as humans operate in this world. How do they resonate with you? Please feel free to share your thoughts, we�d love to hear from you. 

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love. 

2. Don�t Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won�t be the victim of needless suffering. 

3. Don�t Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. 

4. Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Communication in a Relationship

Communication is a vital part of our lives: a typical day involves many interactions between ourselves, our work colleagues and clients, our children, our friends, our ex's, future relationships, etc. This interaction takes place where we live, work, relax, socialize and wherever we perform routine tasks. 

Communication skills are critical for building healthy relationships, especially when one realizes that one of the most common causes of relational breakdown is a lack of communication. Just as communication can be the most important part of a relationship; arguments can be the most destructive aspect - the closer we are to someone, the more easily we can bruise or be bruised. There is very little truth in the saying: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me." It's not what we say, but rather how we say it, that most often hurts another person. 

Do you identify with any of these statements? 

"He never listens to me when I talk!" 

"She talks and talks, but never actually says anything!" 

"It's like talking to a brick wall" 

"I can't get through to you" 

"We can't talk about anything important without getting into a fight" 

"She's too emotional - she's either crying or shouting or complaining. It's easier to avoid her" 

"He always gets defensive when I try to talk about issues" 

Communication is a complex process; of which speaking only makes up for 10-20%. The other 80-90% is made up by facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. 

Communication is the art/ science of transferring a thought/ idea/ information from the mind of one complex human being to the mind of one or more complex human being(s). For communication to be effective, it must be a two-way process. 

Dynamics of Interpersonal Communication 

1. Facts: are both people communicating about the same set of facts? Try to separate the facts from thoughts or feelings. 

2. Interpretations, Thoughts or Perceptions: Each person interprets a fact differently based on their belief system, personality, values and experience. 

3. Feelings: how we are feeling, our current mood and frame of mind, etc can sub-consciously affect decisions and thoughts. 

4. Intentions, Needs or Wants: hidden agendas; are we looking for comfort, clarification, information or simply a chance to interact? We judge ourselves on our intentions. 

5. Actions: choice of words (is the intent to create harm?) + tone of voice + non-verbal speech = body language, posture, eye contact, facial expressions, etc. 

"The medium is the message" => the way the message is delivered is the message itself.

6. Self: The communication centre, which includes the issue, topic or conflict at hand, has been "filtered" by the facts, interpretations, thoughts, feelings, intentions, and choices of behaviour / actions. 

Listening and Feedback 

Did I say what I meant to say? - Invite feedback to clarify communication. 

Someone who's not listening lets their mind drift and is already preparing the next argument or opposing thought; inaccurate feedback or limited eye contact. 

Listening is an active, not a passive process. When two people argue, they only hear "what they want to hear", not what's actually said. This equates to the accusation of "not listening". Most couples start arguing and within 5 minutes are arguing about the way they are arguing. 

Don't argue when you're angry - you will not be able to listen objectively. Give yourself time to cool down and then broach the subject when you are in a more reasonable frame of mind. 

It's important to give feedback - checking and confirming. Did I understand you correctly? Is this what you mean? I heard you say this: am I right? Feedback can be verbal / non-verbal e.g. a nod, smile, silence or a cold shoulder. No feedback is in itself a form of feedback. 

If the words and actions contradict each other, it is better to believe the actions! 

Conflict Resolution 

Conflict resolution can either be Constructive or Destructive. 

Destructive Style - hinders or inhibits the conflict resolution process: 

Confrontational (win or lose, blaming) 

Sabotage (focus on weak points, shaming) 

Manipulation (blackmail, withdrawal) 

Giving in (passive, submissive) 

Avoidance (denial, withdrawal) 

Constructive Style � trying to minimize the issues and avoiding the difficulties in resolving the problems: 

Compromise (meet halfway, understanding) 

Accommodate (open discussion, communication without confrontation) 

Partnership (solutions, forgiveness, honesty) 

When trying to resolve conflicts, try to clarify your goals, as you will probably share many of the same goals despite of your differences. Avoid bargaining, as this may lead to each party taking a rigid position which in turn can flare tempers. 

When resolving conflicts, remember that their causes may run deep. Sweeping issues under the carpet isn�t going to work in the long term, as old baggage will be brought up each time an argument starts. Try to fully resolve each issue as it comes along. You may find the following method useful: 

1. Ask the other person for their feelings. Your conflict probably isn�t about the issue that caused it to start in the first place. Don�t forget that your goal is sorting out the problem, not winning an argument! 

2. Ask the other person to define the problem. Stick to solving one problem at a time, that way you can understand each problem as the other person sees it. 

3. Express your own feelings. Be careful to word them carefully, for example use phrases such as �I feel�� rather than �I think you�� 

4. Define the problem as you see it. As your feelings come out, the solution may become clearer. Remember that by you listening to the other person; you will have set the tone for them to listen to you. 

5. Create multiple solutions. Don�t go back to your original agenda. Aim to find alternative or creative solutions that reduce emotions and tension. 

6. Rate the possible solutions. Remember that no one can force an unacceptable solution on the other. 

7. Combine and create a mutually acceptable solution. Create something acceptable to both parties, if this doesn�t work � go back to step 1 and ensure both parties are being totally honest. 

8. Be sure both parties agree to work towards resolving the issue. 

Troubleshooting For Problems in Communication 

Control or Power Issues: Effective communication cannot take place if one person has "control" over the other or where there is not mutual respect and equality of relationship. To stay in control leads to relational isolation as the underdog reacts in anger at being manipulated or belittled. 

Triangulation: Do not bring in a third party to avoid direct confrontation. If you have a problem with someone, go directly to that person. Don't dump your accusations on mutual friends or your children in the hope of winning support to balance the scales in your favour - it leads to more substantial and long-lasting damage, especially when a child is used as a weapon between parents. 

19 Steps to Effective Communication 

1. See communication as an opportunity to praise, build-up, affirm, heal, support and give positive reinforcement, rather than to correct, criticise, tear down, hurt, wound, lash out at. Praise opens doors to further communication, while criticism shuts them down. 

2. Remember that actions speak louder than words; non-verbal communication usually is more powerful than verbal communication. Avoid double messages in which the verbal and the non-verbal messages convey something contradictory. (Credibility gap) 

3. Define what is important and stress it; define what is unimportant and de-emphasise or ignore it. Avoid fault-finding. 

4. Communicate in ways that show respect for the other person�s worth as a human being. �Avoid statements which begin with the words �You never �� or �I think you ��. 

5. Be clear and specific in your communication. Avoid vagueness. 

6. Be realistic and reasonable in your statements. Avoid exaggeration and sentences which begin with �You always �� 

7. Test all your assumptions verbally by asking if they are accurate. Avoid acting until this is done. 

8. Recognize that each event can be seen from different points of view. Avoid assuming that other people see things like you do. (Perception) 

9. Recognize that your family members and close friends are experts on you and your behaviour. Avoid the tendency to deny their observations about you � especially if you are not sure. 

10. Recognize that disagreement can be a meaningful form of communication. Avoid destructive arguments. 

11. Be honest and open about your feelings and viewpoints. Bring up all significant problems even if you are afraid that doing so will disturb another person. Speak the truth in love. Avoid sullen silences. 

12. Do not put down and/or manipulate the other person with tactics such as ridicule, interrupting, name-calling, changing the subject, blaming, bugging, sarcasm, criticism, pouting, guilt-inducing, etc. Avoid the one-upmanship game. 

13. Be more concerned about how your communication affects others than about what you intended. Avoid getting bitter if you are misunderstood. 

14. Accept all feelings and try to understand why others feel and act as they do. Avoid the tendency to say, �you shouldn�t feel like that.� 

15. Be tactful considerate and courteous. Avoid taking advantage of the other person�s feelings. 

16. Ask questions and listen carefully. Avoid preaching or lecturing. 

17. Do not use excuses. Avoid falling for the excuses of others. 

18. Speak kindly politely and softly. Avoid nagging yelling or whining. 

19. Recognize the value of humour and seriousness. Avoid destructive teasing. 

Summary 

As you look ahead to new relationships, you need to be able to break old and faulty communication patterns to allow for healthier interaction. The use of praise and positive reinforcement will reconstruct wounded and broken self-images and will build self-esteem, particularly in children. By becoming an effective communicator, you will also grow and become a better person which will positively enhance all your relationships.

How to Get a Guy to Like You - From the Very First Date

There are 2 ways to understand how to get a guy to like you on your first date. The first way is to Ask Your Girlfriends, consult with your mother or aunt, or maybe read Cosmopolitan every week. The common thing about these sources - They all come from Women. 

We women spend an amazing amount of time dissecting and analyzing every little aspect of relationships, men and life in general. 

That, unfortunately, doesn't mean that we understand men better (than men). 

The second way to know how to get a guy to want you is to Finally listen to what Men Are Saying... This may not be easy. We will hear things that we don't want to hear and we will have to accept things that may sound sexist and annoying. None the less - They will still be true! 

If you ask your girlfriends or go through women's magazines, you will find that this is how to act on a first date: 

1. Don't order pricy drinks or food. 

2. Act like someone who will get along with his buddies 

3. Don't wear anything too exposing and revealing and never use any curse words - so he knows he can introduce you to his mother. 

4. Don't talk much and if possible don't talk at all - just listen. 

I am sure you have heard this advice before, right? 

While these tips can be good for some type of men, they are hardly the things that will affect his first impression of you (which of course is the most important one) 

What's the Problem With Women-Tips for First Dates? 

Most of the time, we women do not understand the purpose of a first date. We tend to focus on compatibility, attraction and how many relationship he had in his past. These are all important things, but not on a first date. 

After a long research about how to get a guy to like you (and a lot on interrogation of the opposite sex), I have found these 3 simple rules to follow on your first date. They are all related to one thing: Concentrate on conveying your femininity. 

Rule #1 - Wear a Dress 

Men like women in dresses because dresses make you look soft, tender and it makes him want to cuddle you and protect you from the harms of the world. 

Rule # 2 - Let Him Speak First 

If you allow him to be the first one to speak on your first date will make him feel respected. Men like to feel respected even more than being loved. It's a fact of life and it is an ancient fact of life. It maybe annoying, but it's still true. 

Rule #3 - Smile Often 

Smiling at him often will simply make him feel attractive. It's so easy yet so true. Men want to feel attractive and this is an easy way to achieve that. 

Follow these 3 simple rules and he will beg for a second date. Wait 2 more dates and then you can start to express yourself much more and let him know who you really are. By than he will be much more motivated to get to know you as a person.

Indian Matrimonial Website - Matching is easier now

Marriage is the medium to met two souls who make a pact with each other and live for each other, always ready to take sorrow, illness, pain, loss of each other or live with each other regardless of the condition may be. India's more traditional wedding ceremony, Indian marriage is given high priority and it is the feelings and emotions. No marriage is organized and implemented as an Indian marriage around the world. Indian wedding systems vary from one place to another in accordance with their culture. Indian marriages are based on belief, religion, and horoscope must all be considered. 

Indian Matrimonial websites are a popular concept around the world until years ago. But times have changed; a lot of free Indian Matrimonial website have also been developed in India, and indeed take the path of Indian thought. Indian Matrimonial website a lot, but it all depends on the user that the matrimonial website would be so many websites out there on the web that are not really free or carry a potential risk factor. In general, Indian Matrimonial website are great advisor and matchmaker and chosen by many simply because the websites that offer the best platform for sharing of emotions and thoughts. If you fall in love or not, most Indian matrimony service is a convergence of people like minded. And there goes the marriage customs, futuristic and traditional at the same time! 

Match making in Indian marriage is done by parents, parents must notify the family and friends that your child is ready to get married and find various parties through them. They go through and researching family history on individuals in their environment, where education and the workplace. A lot of thought and a long procedure are taken before deciding to take a mate for their son/daughter. In Indian weddings are looking for people with complementary horoscopes. 

Parents just do not see the individual members, but some, including family, believing that exposure to a family who can understand their children. Therefore, great care taken by parents when they select life partner for their son/daughter, who never believed that someone who does not do this part. By this we understand the importance of a marriage in India. 

All things seems to be change at this time have enough time to spend when they coincide. Young people have evolved and to make their own decisions on their soul mates. Best of all this is that parents accept the changes. Many consultants recommend the reliable matrimonial website builder free in marriage in India. Indian matrimonial website that matches more easily than you can go through the profiles that are different from just sitting in one place. All you need do is enter a few matrimonial websites, some of which require payment in the least free. Just fill your details such as name, age, family background, etc. This allows the browser to go through your profile and complete information before you approach. Information provided by Indian matrimonial website is really adequate and reliable, providing complete security of your information.

Can Attracting Women Be Learned?

I think a fundamental question faced by men in the pursuit of attracting women is: Can attracting women be learned? Is it a result of genetics � of having been gifted with prominent cheekbones, lean muscularity or a sizable organ? Or perhaps having a prominent checkbook and the right surname? Is it about having a naturally outgoing personality, charisma, and sharp wit? Or perhaps possession of influence and personal power? 

As complex as women are, there is no one answer to explain their preferences. As individuals, they, like we, are different � with different genetics, different experiences, and therefore, different tastes. And it�s been said � there�s no accounting for taste. So, it may be true that to some women, height and good looks matter a lot. Some schools of thought say that women value financial security more. Others say that personality, masculinity, sense of humor, or any of a variety of different criteria matters most. 

And so, the questions must of necessity be: Is it possible to attract women, and if so, can any man do it? And will it work with ANY woman specifically? The answer is yes, and no. 

Yes, in the sense that it is possible to attract the kind of women that you like, and who would like you in return, but whom you need to actively attract to you. This requires you to learn the techniques for attracting women, and actively engaging in the pursuit. Sitting at home simply won�t do; you have to go out and approach them. Attracting women involves the application of learned skills in a consistent and persistent fashion. Just like any skill, it�s all about practice and playing the probabilities. You simply have to keep approaching women. 

When you play the numbers, however, remember that your chances of winning can be enhanced by other things besides the application of the techniques. Some of your strengths can be emphasized, and your weaknesses downplayed. For example, age differential, or shortness, or obesity may hinder you to some extent, but should not stop you. Instead, play to your strengths, and remember that women�s preferences are not all the same. If you persist, you WILL succeed in attracting women. 

However, it is not possible to attract all women, or just any specific one. If there were a specific woman that you wanted to attract, but who is simply not interested or attracted to you, no skill or technique or persistence is guaranteed to work. History is replete with stories of unrequited love � of men who thought that they can make a woman want them. If they had simply tried to attract other women instead, and kept persisting, they would have been met with success. 

So, in sum, yes, attracting women can be learned. Will it always work? No. But if it allows you to attract the women you want, and who want you in return, isn�t it worth it to try?

Photography In A Pinch

Good photographers try to be prepared for almost any contingency. Unfortunately, if you tried to carry everything you'd need to meet every contingency in the field, you'd have to pack like a Bedouin trader. 

Many times that simply isn't possible and other times it's not desirable. So the seasoned photographer learns to be resourceful. Here are a few miscellaneous tips that can save your back, particularly on short trips near home. 

A Monopod 

In all but the most extreme lighting situations a monopod can substitute nicely for a tripod and is a lot easier to carry. With practice you'll be able to hold a monopod nearly as stable as a tripod, for a short time anyway. 

Another trick for stabilizing a monopod is to wrap the camera strap around your upper arm and push on the monopod while exerting gentle backward pressure on the strap. Similarly, you can place a large clamp on your monopod and use it as a shoulder brace, almost like a gun mount. It might look a little funny but it works surprisingly well. 

Working In Sand 

For those times you have to drag a tripod to the beach or sandy area, grab three tennis balls on the way out the door. Cut a hole big enough for your tripod leg and fit a tennis ball over each end. 

The tennis balls won't sink in the sand, will keep most of the grit out of the end of your tripod leg and you can throw them away when you're finished. 

Another great thing about working at the beach is you don't need to carry sand bags, just bring bags. There's usually plenty of sand already on the beach. Those are priceless for weighting reflectors, which tend to act like a sail in ocean breezes. 

Bring A Cooler 

But leave the ice packs at home. A cooler has several advantages over an equipment case in many situations. They're solid, many have a handle and wheels, and you can sit or stand on them in a pinch. If you lose or break it, you're only out about $40. 

You can still carry drinks with the camera gear, but carefully. Get those drink cozies you put in the freezer. Those will keep your drinks cold without bringing down the temp too much in the cooler. The last thing you want to do is bring cold optics or a camera out into warm, muggy atmosphere. Expect instant condensation if you do. 

Carry a Bag of Rubber Bands 

They're just so handy for so many things and so easy to carry. You can use them for emergency repairs and to keep papers from flying away. 

A fat rubber band is handy for dislodging a stuck filter. Wrap the rubber band around the edge of the filter and that should give you enough grip to get it loose. 

And, if you're stuck waiting outside a courthouse waiting for a photo op, they're also endlessly entertaining for taunting your fellow photographers. 

Incident Light Meter 

Many photographers still carry a light meter, even in the days of high end digital SLRs. If you're packing light you can use a styrofoam cup over the end of your lens and use your camera's light meter, hold it in place with one of your rubber bands. 

Note that cups do come in different thicknesses, so you may want to calibrate yours using the Sunny 16 rule before you leave. 

Record the exposure at the subject, then walk back to shoot the picture.

the duplicate number and its harmful effects

Let us begin with asking you a simple question. Why do you think we ask for your mobile number?

As you would have guessed, we ask for it so that recruiters can contact you for matching job opportunities.

Some of us forget this simple thing and knowingly or unknowingly, provide our incorrect contact details. Due to this, when a recruiter dials the number mentioned in your profile, she is unable to do so & the opportunity is lost.

Taking this forward, some recruting sites  have now introduced another new feature - Duplicate Number Alert. From now on, when any user enters a mobile number matching the mobile number of an existing registered user, a Duplicate Number Alert email will be sent prompting the users to verify their mobile numbers.

The idea is simple. Only the one who owns the number should be able to display it to the recruiters. So if you get any such email, just verify your mobile number ownership by following a few simple steps.

Wondering why would someone enter someone else’s number? Here are a few reasons why:

1. You changed your mobile number and forgot to update your  profile at concerned job portal:-
The new user to whom the mobile operator assigned the new number updated that in her profile.
In such a case, on successful mobile number verification, the old number will be removed from your profile as the ownership has changed

2. You unknowingly entered a wrong number:-
We all are prone to making typo errors. All you need to do is update your profile with your correct mobile number if you get such an alert.

3. You don’t want to share your mobile number with job portals and entered a random number matching someone else’s mobile number:-
That’s not good. You should always provide your own contact number otherwise the recruiters will not be able to contact you.